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Maryann's avatar

Haley, did you queue these two masterpieces up this way on purpose? Undine and Ralph Marvel echo and amplify Rosamond and Lydgate.

Ralph realizes that his wife's disregard for money comes with "blind confidence that it will somehow be provided". It was Rosamond "who never thought of money except as something necessary which other people would always provide."

Lydgate and Ralph each fall for a beautiful girl that they envision as their internal image of ideal womanhood. Rosamond "would reverence her husband’s mind after the fashion of an accomplished mermaid, using her comb and looking-glass and singing her song for the relaxation of his adored wisdom alone”

Ralph sees Undine "like a lovely rock-bound Andromeda, with the devouring monster Society careering up to make a mouthful of her; and himself whirling down on his winged horse...to snatch her up, and whirl her back into the blue"

When reality intervenes, both men scramble to maintain the illusion. Ralph seeks to "to guard himself from the risk of judging where he still adored”. Lydgate decides that "She will never love me much,” is easier to bear than the fear, “I shall love her no more.”

I can't yet even begin to dissect how even now society uses and reinforces fantasy to motivate and disappoint us when navigating the reality of relationships. It's too depressing to end on Ralph's conclusion (with Wharton using yet more water imagery) that "they were fellow-victims in the noyade of marriage, but if they ceased to struggle perhaps the drowning would be easier for both." That these authors can share truth that resonates a century or more later is nothing short of miraculous. I am so glad to be reading them here.

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Martha Nichols's avatar

As I consider Undine's progress in *The Custom of the Country*, I’ve been thinking about Diane Keaton and what she represented for me as a bohemian woman who lives her own life. I'm very sad about her death, something I'd never feel for Undine Spragg's passing (or her celebrity equivalent: a Kardashian? Zsa-Zsa Gabor??). I grew up in the 1970s and ‘80s, and Keaton’s Annie Hall, with her male tie and vest and funny hat, and most especially, her funny sweetness, made her an icon for me. I think we’re all shaped by our own lives and cultural times, which is likely why I find Undine to be so repellant. I have plenty of biases as a feminist, so for me, a female character like Undine could never be a hero — but neither is Elmer Moffat, her male shadow twin. Give me Annie Hall rather than a female version of Donald Trump any day.

In answer to Haley's question, I hate Undine as a person. She’s awful to family members, knocking them aside like gnats she barely thinks about (at one point with the Spraggs, the narrator describes Undine never being moved to think of her own parents as “interesting” and is amazed anyone else would find them so). She’s a narcissistic performer who sparkles for hangers-on and admirers but turns ugly when anyone questions her motives. In many ways, she’s a great character, in that she has my attention, but I feel a little itchy reading a whole book about her.

But I’m enjoying the book, too, and find it to be a very fast read (while traveling, I couldn’t put it down, and I’m now up to Book V). I began reading it wondering if it was possible to care about a main character with no inner life. That’s a theme I’ve been tracking, along with the comparisons between the many levels of American and European society. At this point (trying to avoid spoilers), I’ve answered my own question: I find myself repulsed by Undine’s inner void. I guess I do care, but in a judgmental negative way, which also doesn’t feel comfortable to me as a reader. This is a satire, and I think Wharton the author appreciates Undine’s ruthlessness and ability to get what she wants compared with passive, moony-eyed Ralph. Yet I still feel something positive for Ralph. At the very least, I feel sorry for him.

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