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Lauren K's avatar

I am someone who likes to just forge ahead and trample through rather than taking time and I have been really careful to match the pacing suggested each week and honestly-- it makes me *miss* the characters and gives me time to marinate? A happy surprise as someone who does not have patience as one of my virtues.

The quote that I cannot get out of my head this week is: "What is that, my love?" said Mr. Casaubon (he always said "my love" when his manner was the coldest.) (pg 215). This hit me like a slap, it's such a throwaway moment to some degree because we just push forward but the mismatch between Casaubon saying the "right words" and acting in such a cold manner, the passive aggressiveness of that is so beyond. I am ready to throw Casaubon into the nearest dumpster. Re: Dorothea, I keep having the Taylor Swift lyric "how can a person know everything at 18, and nothing at 22?" rattling around. No one is ever quite as sure of themselves as you are at 18 and then you get absolutely knocked down when you try and launch into the world and it calls EVERYTHING into question. I feel terrible for her as she was sure she knew it all, but she is learning how little she actually understands. I work as a therapist in my day job and I primarily see adolescents and it is actually incredible how much this translates forever in how young people exist and experience the world. Eliot truly pulled a timeless theme, it's almost hard to watch.

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Katya11's avatar

My favorite passage is when the narrator explains that people are unlikely to find it tragic that a young bride is crying on her honeymoon, because her sadness "is not unusual, and we do not expect people to be deeply moved by what is not unusual." And then the narrator (1) suggests that it is, in fact tragic precisely *because* it is so common, and then (2) speculates that maybe our insensitivity is protective, because we couldn't bear it if we were sensible of all the heartache and suffering and feelings around us:

"That element of tragedy which lies in the very fact of frequency, has not yet wrought itself into the coarse emotion of mankind; and perhaps our frames could hardly bear much of it. If we had a keen vision and feeling of all ordinary human life, it would be like hearing the grass grow and the squirrels heart beat, and we should die of that roar which lies on the other side of silence. As it is, the quickest of us walk about well wadded with stupidity."

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